The answer to the question.
I know some of you think that the wedding must be perfect and for that to happen you must have a wedding planner. The truth is it is all up to you. The wedding is all about the bride. The groom for the most part acts as if he is helping planning the wedding but it is more like. “Yes dear if that is what you want.”
I didn’t say you don’t want or need a wedding planner
So let’s cut to the chase I beaten around the bush long enough. A wedding planner is one who finds out what you want then makes it happen. I know too often a wedding planner will have a meeting with the bride and the information will go in one ear and out the other. That will make your life miserable. Like I said. I didn’t say you don’t need or want a wedding planner . Just make sure he or she is doing what you want and not what the wedding planner wants.
How to get what you want.
If you are doing the wedding yourself of course with a little help from family and friends then the next section may or may not help. Lest say for instance you have hired a wedding planner the cost doesn’t matter but let’s say it is around two thousand dollars.
You set the wedding planner down and tell her that you want a wedding on a nude beach and in great detail you explain what your dream is or may be it is a costume ball type situation. Remember it is your celebration and you should have it your way.
When you talk to him or her in the first meeting they are trying to get your business. If you said the moon was purple they would agree. It is what happens after the initial meeting that drives you crazy.
I have some vendors (friends) to help.
Let’s take a quick look at her or his vendors. First of all they are either family or friends and they have a limited skill set. They have some things left from the last traditional wedding. Yes, I said it traditional wedding. They have no idea what to do for a nude beach wedding or costume party wedding. They would have to go buy every thing now they want to charge you double or triple, but wait.
The vendors tell the wedding planner she or he needs to get you to change the theme.
That’s right the vendors dictate to the wedding planner to try to get you to huge your mind. After all there is only one of you and your wedding planner has a whole list of vendors.
I know your wedding planner said they was giving you a big discount for choosing them but what they ment to say they was giving you a discount and was going to get the money back from the kick backs that the vendors was going to give them. Oh my, did I let the cat out of the bag. Now I will have wedding planners all over the world mad at me.Oh well lets move on.
What to do?
If you have a wedding planner and this is happening to you fire them. Ypu are the bride and it is your day and it should be the way you want it even if you need to step up to the plate. You Can get the wedding planners guide or just wing it.
I know that sounds a little weird as you have probably been told all you’re life that you need to plan every thing so it goes the way you want it. Have you ver heard the best laid plans of mice and men. Incase you dont know what that means. What ever the best pans that are made something can and usually does go wrong.
Don’t be afraid Just do it.
Only you know how you really invision your wedding. If you use a wedding planner make sure they are on the same page as you. If not then get rid of them. It is time the wedding planner saw your vision.
Until next time where we will discuss more about the wedding I bid you ado.